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You’re a Mom, but that’s not all…

You’re a Mom, but that’s not all…

my kids are my life, and pretty much everything i do revolves around them. however, i’m a firm believer that you have to take care of yourself first & you have to have your own life outside of being a mother. yes, it is my most important job and my highest calling. but i believe that in order to be the best mother i can be for my children, i must be healthy not only physically, but mentally. if i do nothing but parent 24/7 & do nothing that is enjoyable to me, i will get frustrated, irritated, annoyed, & burnt out. when this happens, you become like a volcano just building & building until an eruption. a lot of times you take things out on your spouse or your kids or your friends or other family members. & this isn’t fair to those people. take time for yourself. take time to relax & clear your mind. take time to do things that you enjoy–that don’t involve the kids for once. when you do these things for yourself, you are helping release more of the good chemicals in your brain that make you feel happy & satisfied with life. if you are feeling satisfied, you will be in a better mood, have more patience, & be more willing to read that dumb dinosaur book to your kid for the 57th time today. happy moms are the best moms. & you can’t be happy if you never take any time for self care.

another reason i believe it is so important to have your own life as a mother is one day, far too soon, these children will grow up and sadly, leave me. while i still hope to see them very often and be involved in their lives, i will need to have my own life. as someone who has struggled with depression, OCD and anxiety for a large portion of my life, i can see how parenting could become an unhealthy obsession. where i give & give & give myself until there is nothing left. & looking to the future, what’s going to happen when they’re all out of the house & living their own lives? what will i be left with? an empty house, an empty heart, & no friends or hobbies of my own. i can see that being a very dark time in my life if i don’t do things now to combat that. so i try to have things that i do regularly outside of being a mom. i believe all mothers should have hobbies and things that interest them besides their kids. it is so important to not lose your own identity for the sake of being a mother. you are still an individual & when your child grows up, you can’t live their life for them. they will become their own person. & if you lose your own identity, then when they find theirs, you will be left with nothing.

so how do we keep from going insane as a mother & also keep our own sense of individualism? here is a list of ideas to help:

  1. go on a date with your significant other
  2. go to a coffee shop by yourself for a while to read a book or online shop
  3. have dinner with friends
  4. go to the gym
  5. get a massage
  6. get your hair done
  7. get your nails done
  8. get a facial
  9. go for a walk alone
  10. go to a movie with your mom
  11. go shopping without the kids
  12. have your significant other take the kids somewhere & let you take a nap at home
  13. go out for a drink with friends
  14. take a bubble bath when the kids are in bed
  15. take a local craft class
  16. take a long drive to nowhere
  17. have a show that you keep up with (that is not a cartoon)
  18. have a podcast or radio show you keep up with
  19. join a local club or group
  20. when all else fails, hand the kids off to your significant other & go to target!!!

what are some things you do for self care & to keep your identity that i didn’t mention? comment below or email me!

& let’s be friends! life is so much better when we do it with others.

xoxo,
lindsey

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