I want to take a second + reflect back on my blogging journey with you.
Because without you reading this, there would be no blog!
I started this blog back in October 2019 (9 months ago). My hope was that I could connect with other moms, share some fashion + beauty, maybe a little home decor, get personal with you every now + then, + have some fun.
I’ll be honest, I had NO idea what it took to be a blogger/influencer that was successful + influential. I had done research, but was massively undereducated on what it actually took.
I’ve come a long way. That’s not to say that I know everything now. I don’t believe I ever will + I’m okay with that. Learning is part of the process + something I never want to stop doing.
In the past 9 months, I’ve learned a lot about the blogging world, but I’ve also learned a lot about myself + what I want my mission to be.
I want to share with you today my mission moving forward + how I hope I can help you on this journey of life we are all on.
Recently, my focus has shifted. I went from just wanting to share funny thoughts + some clothes to wanting to be a little deeper. I saw the hunger in women’s hearts for encouragement + uplifting messages.
This is a tough world we are living in. As if being a woman isn’t hard enough, let’s throw a pandemic on top of it.
During the past several months of being home (with three kids, a husband, + a dog), I treasured any time I got to myself. It’s been my saving grace. I have loved treating myself to a bubble bath, a face mask, an online shopping spree, or listening to an uplifting podcast.
I’ve always been a huge fan of self care, but it really hit home for me during the last several months: self care is not just a hobby. It’s not something we do once or month or once a year. Self care is absolutely essential + necessary for our mental health + well being.
As I’ve talked about before, I have struggled with anxiety + depression for many, many years. One of the best ways I can cope is to take care of myself, physically + emotionally.
Think about it like this: Let’s say you start dating someone new. You are always giving your attention to other people, places + activities. You never do anything nice for them. You always do what you want + never what they want. Their birthday comes, + you don’t get them a card or a present. You choose other things over them. Do you think they would stay in that relationship with you? HECK TO THE NAH.
It’s the same thing in our relationship with ourselves. If we give all our time + energy to everyone + everything else, what is left for ourselves? If we don’t show love to our ourselves, we won’t feel loved. If we don’t love ourselves, it will be very hard for us to love anyone else + it will be hard for us to allow others to love us.
We might have friends, family members, or spouses who do nice things for us sometimes + that’s great. But how are we treating ourselves? Maybe that’s by reading a book in silence. Maybe that’s listening to music that makes us happy. Maybe it’s eating our favorite food. Maybe it’s going to get a facial. Maybe it’s getting our nails or hair done. Maybe it’s watching a motivational video. Maybe it’s spending time with people who make you smile. Maybe it’s taking a walk in a pretty part of town. Maybe it’s working out. Maybe it’s going to the movies. Maybe it’s just sitting in silence + being alone with your thoughts.
Self care doesn’t always have to be as extravagant as a day at the spa (although, sign me up for that!). It could be something very simple.
Something that is self care for me, could not be self care for you. Everyone is different. We are all unique + distinct + that’s what makes us beautiful. You might love to go on a bike ride, so that is self care to you, but to me, that sounds like torture!
You just need to think of things that make you happy + fulfilled + set aside time to do those things. Get a piece of paper + write down as many things as you can think of that make you smile or fill your heart with happiness. This is your list of self care ideas.
We have to take care of ourselves if we want to take care of anyone or anything else in our lives. It is so important to care for ourselves + show ourselves how much we love the person we are.
I spent so much of my life hating myself. I spent so much time criticizing myself.
Why did you do that?
Why are you so stupid?
You could never do that.
You will never be that successful.
You are ugly + fat.
You don’t deserve good things.
No one likes you.
Guess what? IT’S ALL LIES!
And the best way you can overcome those hateful thoughts is by taking care of yourself + learning to love yourself. Love every single bit of yourself, including your flaws.
I am shifting the focus of my blog to be all about empowering women + encouraging them to love themselves fully + know their worth.
I will still be sharing clothes I love, because shopping is a form of self care.
I will still be sharing beauty products + routines, because makeup + skincare is a form of self care.
I will still be sharing my home decor projects, because decorating my home is a form of self care.
I will still be sharing local restaurants and businesses, because getting out + about is a form of self care.
Basically, I’m not changing what I’m sharing, but how I’m delivering it to you. My focus + vision are clear to me now.
You might have noticed this shift a little bit in the last few blog posts or on my social media channels. I just wanted to put all of my thoughts together + share this shift with you all so you stay in the know + have an idea of what to expect moving forward.
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support of my blog over the last 9 months.
Whether you have been following along from day one, or you are just now joining me, you are the reason that I am doing all of this. You are the reason I’m spending every waking minute trying to learn + grow as much as I can. You are the reason for it all.
If I can inspire or encourage just one of you, it will all be worth it.
If I have helped you practice self care or encouraged you in some way, big or small, I would love if you would leave me a note in the comments + tell me how. This would mean so much to me!
Thank you, thank you, for being my friend! Looking forward to everything that is to come!
PS- I’m doing a fun Self Care Challenge with some of my friends this week where we’re sharing our favorite ways to practice self care! Come check it out on Instagram!